A Little Holistic Oasis Blog - Introduction. November 2018
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There have been a lot of changes to A Little Holistic Oasis since I first opened in 2014. I opened with little fanfare back then, and little knowledge of how to sign up clients or how to run a business - just a desire to help those in need - to de-stress and create balance in those leading frantic lives and not knowing how to help themselves.
Well it is good to know that I still have that desire to help - and I have a much wider range of services to help a wider range of clients.
I continue to deliver a diverse range of holistic therapies, all specifically chosen to help promote physical, mental and emotional equilibrium.
I have also diversified into becoming a Training provider and Coach - to help facilitate the understanding of those wishing to transform their stress into a positive state. Helping to understand how we can channel the energy that stress creates, into a useful energetic platform.
STRESS - THE UNSEEN ENEMY WITHIN? Nov-18-18
MY MOST STRESSFUL ENCOUNTER....
Ironically, one of my most stressful encounters was when I was training to become a Stress Management Trainer with The Stress Management Society. I knew that I was going to have to deliver a 20 minute presentation on the second day to be able to progress through the accreditation process.
I was terrified. Despite my desire to become a trainer, I had spent the best part of 35 years avoiding teaching and training. I had turned down 3 teaching posts in the past - I felt completely fearful and utterly unable to confront this terror of public speaking - but here I was, facing it, but not well.
The day before my 20 minute presentation, when I was asked how I was feeling about it, I noted that all the other trainees were seemingly quietly confident and meanwhile, I was quaking in my boots. Those familiar symptoms of stress and anxiety. The overload of adrenaline and cortisol coursing through my veins- increased heart rate, hearing the increase in blood pressure rushing through my ears, and, feeling the banging in my chest - BOOM-BOOM-BOOM!!!
Tension in my neck and shoulder muscles, intense headache, gritted teeth, clenched jaw and the need to want to run!
Now this, in reality was a presentation. I was not being chased by a lion or living in a warzone, but my physical .. and emotional response was the same! This turmoil was about something that was happening the next day! It was my own perception of what was going to happen. This was exactly that - my perception of a situation - not a reality.
And .. that is a key observation in how stress works. The stress response is a physical .. and an emotional response to our own perception of an event. Our own brains can trick us into reacting to something that may .. or may not happen. We can feel as if we are the only ones going through this apprehension and dizzying pandemonium going on inside us and, it can be very isolating.
I did nearly walk away from my training - making excuses in my head at why it was acceptable to walk away from 2 days of training and a sizeable financial outlay. You know those conversations you have with yourself. "It isn't what I wanted to do anyway", or "I never really wanted to train - I thought I did but it's not for me".
However, I was talked into sleeping on it and staying on for the presentations the next day. I reluctantly agreed and appeared the next day. I had managed 2 hours of sleep, couldn't eat breakfast, lost my voice - it is amazing the physical manifestations that our minds can conjure up for us. There was absolutely nothing physically wrong with me, but because my brain told me I couldn't do it, my voice mysteriously disappeared. There was no going back - I had to do it - voice or no voice!
Out of 6 of us to present, we drew straws - and I was 6th! Well, what can I say - I did it .. and did it brilliantly! Actually, that would be an exaggeration of the truth. More realistically, I did it and did it …. okay! Well, more of a mediocre attempt really.
It took me 3 attempts to get it absolutely right - by then, I was like - "Just get it done .. and I did it and I did it well! It was, however, the first time I came across the acronym FAIL - or - First Attempt In Learning, and the realisation dawned on me that that was exactly what I was doing - LEARNING.
We put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect from the beginning, that we don't give ourselves time to learn. I have such a clearer understanding of what I am trying to achieve at A Little Holistic Oasis now than I did 4 years ago, due to my desire to learn, understand and provide the best solutions to my client that I can.
Four years on, I have faced my fears, been on my own discovery of personal development. I am now a Stress Management and Resilience Trainer and Coach, as well as being a therapy and wellbeing provider. I help those with the same issues that I have had.. and overcome.
Do I still get nervous before a presentation? YES, I do - but I understand how I can channel the stress energy and reframe it into challenge and excitement .. and success.